The Code of Male Ethics is a book that attempts to recover an
important aspect of Western Civilization that has been lost.
Chivalry itself was a code of behavior
of the knightly class during the Middle Ages. It was originally
based on the warrior ethic of loyalty to one's lord or leader. It
gradually developed to include other virtues as well, including
honesty, humility, justice, defending the weak, serving women, and
courtesy. Although most knights only loosely adhered to these ethics,
chivalry remained as an inspirational ideal that contributed to
the Western idea of being a gentleman.
The author's premise is that chivalry
encapsulated the Western idea of manhood. If it had properly evolved
into modern times, many of the social problems we suffer from today
would be less significant. There would be fewer men in jail, fewer
abused women, less corporate crime, and more politicians we could
Male development needs a cultural
guide that describes what it means to be a man. Without such a guide,
it is difficult to find purpose and meaning in life. Male energy
becomes misdirected, unappreciated and often stagnates into a wasted
To remedy this situation, this book
takes the original tenets of chivalry and updates them to be applicable
to today's world. Included in this work is a viable description
of attainable romantic love, and a discussion of the spiritual side
of chivalry, questing for the Holy Grail that exists inside us all.
Chivalry-Now, The Code of Male
Ethics is the source for this web site, which offers other information
to help inspire men to higher ideals.
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is taken from the Introduction of Chivalry-Now, the Code of Male
in No Man's Land
it mean to be a man?
is surely one of the most significant questions we face and
one of the least considered, reflecting a functional void in our
from a long career in social services, I firmly believe that almost
all our social, political and family problems flow directly from
our inability to fill that void. Its influence affects us all, shaping
how we relate to one another and how we treat the world around us.
is not just a male issue. Its ramifications affect both genders,
because all our lives are interconnected. In the words of Martin
Luther King, "I can never be what I ought to be until you
are what you ought to be."
relates not only to matters of race but to gender as well. While
positive examples of manhood can still be found here and there,
they are deterred by a pervasive mindset that neither propagates
nor recognizes it.
America, we shy away from defining manhood as if the very subject
were taboo. After a long history of unwarranted violence and discrimination,
men are being taught from birth that they automatically carry an
inheritance of guilt for past sins. We make sure that no male child
slips by without taking his share. Each of us is expected to bear
the guilt of our forefathers along with a personal stigma for simply
being male. We are told in a thousand different ways, either in
silence or in the commercial media, that there is something inherently
wrong with being a man.
intent is clear. We do not want today's men repeating the crimes
of the past. The hope seems to be that by tearing us from any sense
of cultural identity the world can move toward greater harmony.
More guilt and less pride make for a calmer species. Women and minorities
will be treated better. The demise of Western male dominance might
even bring an end to war.
conclusions are dangerously simplistic. We cannot excise the cultural
identity of half the population like a cancer and replace it with
nothing. Doing so sends our entire cultural evolution into a tailspin,
leaving a psychic void that can only lead to disaster.
results are all around us a population of boys and men searching
for who they are and how they fit in. No road map, no gender specific
guidelines, no rite-of-passage not even an articulated goal.
Finding no guidance at all, many turn to whatever distraction is
available, be it entertainment, business, sports or narcotics. Or
they just give up.
diversionary substitutes they are introduced to poorly contrived
mostly dysfunctional, yet always scripted to come out on top. Selfish,
angry, violent, often brutal, they appeal to those whose real cultural
identity is sadly unformed. At the same time, the entertainment
industry pushes socially accepted limits with sexual innuendo, foul
language, and in-your-face aggression. They often appeal to the
angry animus of young men, who do not understand the fundamental
source of their anguish.
icons rip off millions of people to further engorge their
bulging coffers. Despite their inhumanity and complete lack of conscience,
they represent what appears to be a successful male paradigm, where
immoral and even criminal ends justify the means.
Professional athletes, sometimes referred to as "All-American"
- as if they represented the very best that the U.S. has to offer.
We hear about them on the nightly news, throwing tantrums, taking
illegal body building or performance enhancing drugs, and being
charged with rape. Advertisers portray them as ultimate images of
manhood, despite their obvious shortcomings. And young people buy
selling out to big business, contriving slurs and telling outright
lies about their opponents, all for the accumulation of power.
journalists, once considered heroic bastions of truth, now
prostituting their trade, focusing on the lowest common denominator
of titillating gossip while foisting their own political bias on
a public in desperate need for truth.
results are apparent. Jails are overflowing. Wealthy businessmen
violate the trust of innocent people. Politicians ignore the threat
of pollution and global warming, even encouraging the populace to
burn as much oil as they possibly can. Pornographers are treated
as respectable businesspeople. Even religious leaders are now suspect,
with thousands of charges of child molestations made against them
and a Church dragging its feet in response.
is the society that young people grow up in a society without
heroes, without myth, where virtues are so coupled with hypocrisy
that they can no longer be held in esteem.
While many factors contribute to this, a central component is the
degradation of what it means to be a man in relationship to the
world. Men still carry a lot of power but it is power that
often lacks a viable moral compass.
denial of cultural identity is akin to ripping out a person's conscience,
taking away his name, firing him from his job, stealing his language,
cutting him off from friends and family. Cultural identities, especially
those of gender, need to be recognized for the role they play in
people's lives. They need to be honored, but they also need to be
honorable, while retaining a strong continuity with the past.
In short, they need to evolve.
of the problem stems from the growing rapidity of social change
that started with the Industrial Revolution, when men traded their
independence for the closed-in, repetitive conditions of the factory.
Cut off from a respectful relationship with nature, they no longer
performed work that varied with the seasons. They no longer worked
side-by-side with their children to mentor them. This resulted in
a cultural shock with on-going ramifications.
development of technology has distracted us from this trauma by
"making life easier," glossing over the broken status
quo by adding benefits of convenience. Despite the continual advance
of scientific and psychological progress (or maybe because of it?),
we drift even further from knowing who we are in the depth of our
being. We live in a sort of stasis, confused, frustrated, looking
for something - without knowing what.
purpose of this book is to remedy that situation. Our goal is to
first recover and then reinstate a viable cultural identity for